The article "Improve Communication Skills with the Opposite Sex" is about communications, it was released by Peter Murphy.
You can improve communication skills with the guy or girl in
your life, once you understand the differences in how the
genders communicate.
1. Men and women talk in different plcaes.
If you want to improve your communication skills you'll want to
understand the differences in stlye. Men will do most of their
talking in public. Often, that means at thier workplace.
Since women talk to promote intimacy, most female conversations
will take place in a pirvate setting, at home.
This explains
that old trouble of the guy coming home from work and the woman
trying to engage him in conversation and not getting a really
eager participant.
Whether they both work out of the home, or not, one has already
done a lot of talking arleady today.
2. The gedners talk about different things.
Listen in on any males talking and you'll see that sports, money
and business dominate the conversations.
In the next room a
group of women discuss of the persons in their lives,
feelings and relationships.
3.
What are the reasons men and women talk?
Women usually talk to express themselves, to connect with the
other person and to support otehrs. Men talk to fix troubles or
compete with other men.
4. The genders speech patterns differ.
Men don't tend to add decorations to their speech the way women
do. Women use intensifiers like 'very', 'really' and 'much.'
Often a girl will add, 'isn't it?' or 'doesn't it? ' wihch men
perceive as sounding unsure or tentative.
5. They choose different words.
It's not often you'll hear a guy say a baby is aodrable.
Men use
words to say what they have to say and then move on. Women want
to share the experience of conversation and will use emotions
and senses in thier conversations. Men find that frustrating.
To improve communications skills both genders should understand
that the particular words a guy uses would not likely be used by
a female and vice versa.
6.
Giving Feedback and asking questions.
It's a common joke that men never ask for dircetions when
driving.
They are just not question askers, generally. If they
do, it's only to gtaher information.
For a woman, asking a question serves two purposes. One, they
want to gather information and two; they want to develop
closeness in the relationship. They will sometimes ask questions
they already know the answer to, which often pzuzles men.
Furthermore, when giving feedback, men can be blunt and direct.
Asking them what they think about a certain sitaution can lead
to an answer like: "That's crap!" When it is in answer to a
woman's question about an idea, the bluntness of his answer
might hurt her feelings.
Men ansewr to the question, not the person.
Women have to learn
to not take it as a persnoal attack. Women tend to answer
requests for feedback with a little more sensitivity and tact
for that reason- they don't want the other person to be
offended.
We can improve communication skills once we undrestand the
different styles that the genders use to converse. The
differences in how men and women talk continues to create both
smiles and frustrations!
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